Wednesday, February 17, 2010

Volume 1, Issue 54, Feb.17.2010: The Black Girl Curse



       Lately, I've been seeing all of these reports and specials about why are Black women single and just about Black people in general.  I'm wondering where this new found interest in Black people came from?Not to beat the dead horse its hard any woman of any race to find the right guy to marry or be in a relationship, but for some reason, 42% of Black women in American remain single or have never married. Here some reasons why I think it's so:



The Number Don't Lie

       There are about 2 million more Black women than Black men. Already their are going to be some problems. Even if even Black man were to marry a Black woman to day one out of twelve Black women would still be single. Say that there are 100 Black men. Out of those Black men you can elimate 21% who don't have a high school diploma, the unemployed which are about 17% and those who are incarcerated which is about 8%.  Which leaves about 54% of dateable men. Oh, and it gets even better. Out of those men, maybe 20% are already married and 10% don't date Black women.

Requirements For A Spouse

            What bothers me the most is that people seem to think that all Black women want only thugs. I hate thuggish or ghetto men and I bet many other Black women will second me on that. Most Black women who are professional are usually looking for a man thats on their level or above, also with that he has to be somewhat attractive, intelligent and open-minded. Isn't that what every woman wants? Why should we settle for just any guy thats out there? I would want the best man for myself. I want someone who is a great provider, smart, considerate, and caring. If that's me being picky than so be it. I don't think Black women are pickier than other races of women. They have the same exact standrads!!!

"Just Don't Bring Home A White Boy."

         Although interracial marriages have been increased between Black women and other races of men in the last decade, most Black women have never been with someone of a different race. I think this is biggest reason wny many Black women are single. Many of them never try to date a man of a different race. Reasons for this are:

1) Family

           Many Black women were told when they were younger by their parents and relatives to never date a man from another race or culture because it would be "going against the community" or it wouldn't be "loyal" to Black men or the Black race. BULLSHIT!!!! No one tells Black men this at all. Black men have been interracially dating for years and no one complains about it all. Why is it such a double standrad? Why have Black women become the "preservers" of the Black community? My own dad even told me this foolishness, but my aunt told me before he was with my mom he dated several white women.SMDH

2) Some Black Women Prefer Black Men

            There are just some Black women who prefer Black men. Just like there are Black men who prefer Black women and White women who prefer White men and Green men who prefer women with stripes. Everyone has their own preferences and people shouldn't be made guilty for that. You can't tell it's wrong for someone to be attracted to certain types of people. I'm attracted to all types of men but I generally prefer White or Latino guys. This leads me kinds to my next to points.

3) Many Non-Black Men Overlook and Ignore Black Women Completely

Seriously!!! This irks me the most!!!

          I remember going out with a group of girlfriends to a lounge/resturant. It was maybe about 6 of us I was the only Black chick out of one Latina, 3 white girls and one asian girl. Most of the people there are white, hispanic, or asian. Anyways, we were eating and a group of guys come over and start talking to my friends. They were all white and guess what. Not one of them talked to me!!! It was like I was invisible, they didn't even say hi to me.That whole night I felt so rejected. All of my friends were the ones getting hit on and I got no play at all that night.  I'm not an ugly girl at all. I've been told that I'm very beautiful by guys and girls. I even was asked to model for some hip-hop magazine, but I declined I wasn't going to be sticking my ass cheeks out. I have a nice personality too, I'm outgoing, I don't have an attitude and I'm not a bitch. I was voted most likely to brighten up someones day in middle school. 

       I have come to the conclusion that Black women are unwanted generally by non-Black males. I feel like there is some rule in America that says that Black woman are taboo or off limits. The most beautiful Black woman say, someone who looks like Gabrielle Union or Kenya Moore could walk down a street of White men and they would all ignore her. Just look at any magazine that is marketed to young White men mostly like Maxim or GQ, whenever they have their lists like "Hottest Women in the World" or "Maxim's Top 100 Sexiest Women" there are very few Black women on the list and there hasn't been a Black woman who was in the Top 10 at least. The only Black women who ever qualify for these lists are usually in this order: Beyone, Rhianna, Alicia Keys, and Tyra Banks. These are suppose be the representatives for Black women's hotness, which is unfair  because the majority of Black women look different. I remember I was on AskMen.come and they had a list for "The Hottest Babe Producing Countries" not one of those countries was African. They did however mention Brazil which has a majority Black population but is portaryed as a mostly White or mixed race country. Are we not women too? Sometimes I feel that many men don't regard Black women as human at all, that's why many refuse to even try to say hi to us. They would rather disregard every Black female and believe in all the stereotypes of us as being ghetto, promiscious, ugly, fat, loud, bossy, or the mothers of  numerous children with different fathers. It makes me sad indeed that this is the attitude of most American men.

4) Even If Black Women Date Interracially

    Even if many Black women decide to date interracially, many non-Black men would rather just use them for sex rather than date or marry a Black woman. Ugh!!!! I have dated different races of guys, some of them ended up as serious boyfriends. But the majority were losers who believe in the dumb stereotypes that Black women are suppose to be sluttier and they were just looking for sex. I remember I was with this one guy who was white. He was the guy I talked about in my very first entry. We were friends and I started liking him and I thought he liked me and he said that we were going to be together and he ignored me for 3 months for no reason. He came back to school and he was avoiding me and acted as if he didn't know me and act as if he was ashamed of me. Turns out he lied to all his friends and said that I fucked him and that I was a freak in bed. I never had sex with this guy at all. Whenever I talk to a white guy who is interested in me it seems like they only want me for sex., just to say they've been with a Black chick before I can see why many Black women refuse to date out. It sucks when any man uses you for sex. But when a man uses you just for your race it hurts even more. It's like they can only take you seriously if your only having sex with them.

There is some kind of cultural bias against Black women with other types of men. I think Black women who are with non-Black men tend to get more rude remarks while in public, weird stares, and just a lot of jealousy.Case in point, my ex who was mixed with Lebanese, Colombian and German he was very fair skinned and have blade hair and hazel eyes. Whenever we would go out people would look at us funny and treat us odd. Whenever I'm with any non-Black guy some random Black guy would come bother us talking about "He don't know what to do with all of that ass!" or "Another one bites the dust!" and my favorite one "You're White man humping ass!" Not to mention many non-Black women try to wonder why my boyfriend choose them over me and get jealous.

I remember I had walked inside a resturant with him and he asked for a table and the waitress said "For One?" and she looked at me rudely and asked "Can I help you miss?". My ex was like "No for two, she is with me." His mother hated the sight of me. She was openly racist and she would say things like "I don't want grand children that are Black," "How could you be with a Black person?", "You won't be taken seriously with a Black wife." SMDH!!!


It's not easy for any woman, but I think Black women have it a lot harder in the dating arena. Sometimes I think there is some type of curse on us Black women. If we go to college and have high paying salaries were are being too "emsculating", if we want a man with money we are "golddiggers", if we speak are minds we are suddenly "bitches". It never ends for us sometimes.But there are signs of hope there are more men who ignore the stereotypes and are dating or married to Black women. I hope that all the single Black women will find the right men for them. As for me, I'm only 19 and still in college, there is still plenty of time for me to find the right one. Hopefully he looks like Rudy Reyes, is really smart and give me awesome orgasms.



Sunday, February 14, 2010

Volume 1, Issue 53, Feb.14.2010: Top 5 Favorite Love Songs

Even thought I hate Valentines Day, I've decided to make a list of my favorite loves songs. Just because I feel like it and because I'm bored and I'm trying to kill time.

5) Xtreme-Te Extrano( R&B verison)




4) Celine Dion-My Heart Will Go On





3)Heatwave-Always and Forever





2)Koda Kumi-Ai No Uta





1)Aaliyah-At Your Best

Thursday, February 11, 2010

Volume 1, Issue 52, Feb.11.2010: Jean Paul Gaultier for Target!!!!!!!!!!

           Prices range from $17.99-$199.99. The collection hits stores March 7th. I can't wait. I see a lot of things that I want like that yellow dress and the fly trench coat thats $59.99.





Tuesday, February 9, 2010

Volume 1, Issue 51, Feb.09.2010: Alicia Keys and Beyonce In Ankara

Beyonce and Alicia Keys collaborated in Rio De Janiero, Brazil to shot their new video "Put In The Love Song". They are filmed near the Christ the Redemeer Statue and in a nearby favela. Did I mention that they were wearing Ankara? I really want a nice Ankara dresses and playsuits for the Spring and Summer.












Sunday, February 7, 2010

Volume 1, Issue 50, Feb.07.2010: Snowpocalpyse



Snow used to be a fun phenomenon that occured when you were a kid and didn't want to go to school. Now that I'm 19, I hate it. There are no benefits to having a snow day as an adult. Yeah it's nice to get out of school for snow as a college student, more study time, more time to do last minute things, but it puts you behind and you have to make up a crap load of work. I heard of some evil universities that make college student go to class on saturdays and sundays just to make up class time. Another thing about snow is, it sucks ass when you are trying to drive or go out the roads are really bad. And if you live in the DC area you are shit out of luck it snows over a foot of snow. The metro closes, metro buses don't run and the roads can go unshoveled for days. I hate the feeling of being stuck in one place for days its torture. I would rather be in 100 degree weather.







Thursday, February 4, 2010

Volume 1, Issue 49, February 4, 2010: My Newest Love

I used to always splurge on earrings at one point of my life. I used to have a new pair for everyday. Some were gold, some were, silver, and all the colors of the rainbow. Some where huge like bracelets and some were heavy disks. Along with my addiction to scarves, I have a brand new love.....HEADBANDS!!!!!!


I really don't know how I got hooked on headbands, maybe too much Blair Waldorf. Anyways, I wanted to start making my own headbands for fun and maybe make a little money on the side. I made one as a prototype already. It's basically covered in buttons and it's very cute and heavy!!!! I'll post pics of it eventually. 




























Volume 1, Issue 48, February 4, 2010: An Outfit I Would Wear On Valentines Day



















Tuesday, February 2, 2010

Volume 1, Issue 47, Feburary 1, 2010: Grammy Red Carpet Grades

I didn't see the entire show. I flipped back and forth between the grammy's and my favorite movie Akira which I was already watching before the Grammy's come on. I saw some of the red carpet looks and for the most part I saw some very amusing and outragoues designs that look as if a drunken hobo with sequins created them. There weren't enough colorful dresses, there was way too many people wearing nude or neutral tones.

Lady Gaga
Grade: Ummm???? Where do I began? It's Lady Gaga. This is the most tame we've seen her. She is channeling a villan from Sailor Moon in this custom made Giorgio Armani Prive gown.



Beyonce
Grade: C+, she would have gotten an A if this dress didn't have those hideous sleeves. The sleeves and the zipper make the dress look like a cheap knock-off from Rainbow. I'm tired of her wearing this boring dream girls mermaid sillhotte dress. Her hair and make-up looked very plastic like.


Fergie
Grade:A+, She looks beautiful with her dark hair and her blue Pucci mini dress.


Taylor Swift
Grade: D-, Seriously this dress is too matronly and it make her look 10x more flat chested than she already is. Not to mention the color is dreadful.


Rihanna
Grade: D. Who told her that having a powered 18th century wig attached to this dress was cute? Not to mention that her hair color and cut is wrong for her face. She needs to dye it black and grow it out a little longer.

Lea Michelle
Grade: A++, wow she was seriously one of the best of the night.


Pink
Grade: A+, not only did she have the best performance of the night she look beautiful in this Tony Ward gown.


Britney Spear
Grade: WHYYYYY???????????????????????!!!!!!!! No sorry Britney you didn't do it again.


Keri Hilson
Grade: A+++, Miss Keri BABY!!!!


J.Lo
Grade: C+, Her Versace dress is having a split personality disorder or some type of idenity crisis. It doesn't know whether to be long or short, chic or slutty.


Ke$ha
Grade: C-, Hey! Who invited this hooker?! Secruity!!! Another one of Tiger Wood's mistress is on the loose!


J.Hud
Grade: A+++++, Wow she looks great in this LBD made my Victoria Beckham. She also gets a DDDDD for her boobies.